Last October, I wrote down something I've been working on -- on a card, tied it to this wall, and left it there. Although, I say fear is an allusion, I know it can sometimes paralyze us from growing and/or embracing change because we get comfortable in what's comfortable. I love these types of exercises because it can demonstrate how 'simple' these illusions are and how we can be our biggest obstacle. I challenge you at the top of the week to leave a fear you've been holding on to. Thank you #culturecon for this activity and #friendlyreminder#selfreflection #selfdisclosure #fear#lifelessons #lifechanges #lifecoaching#lifecoach #happiness #joy#pursuitofhappiness #illusion#mondaymotivation #activity#mindovermatter #trusttheprocess 💪🏽✨💜🦋 WE GOT THIS!
Even with all the work I've done, and continue to do, every time I hear of someone losing a loved one especially a parent my heart breaks all over again. 💔 You really can't understand this type of pain unless you experience it. I'm going on 11 years without my Dad's physical presence and here are some things I'll share with you in hopes it will help someone. I'll rip the band-aid off first and then go from there....
1. This pain/void will never go away.
2. You will be okay.
3. You will adjust to your new reality in time.
4. Do your work.
5. People will say things that may upset you.
6. Grieve and don't let anyone rush your process.
7. This is a journey. Good days and bad.
8. You will get support from people you don't expect versus from those that you do. Don't take it personally. Sometimes people don't know how to act in these situations.
9. It's okay to cry and miss them especially on holidays and special occasions.
10. They would want you to live your life.
My personal self disclosure: every wedding I go to and see a Dad walking his daughter down the isle, I cry. It's the little things I miss the most: corny jokes, his advice, his cooking, etc. When I see people with their Dad I get sad because my new reality is I will never have those moments. Please cherish your loved ones while you can. Make peace where you can. Life is too short.
#wednesdaywisdom #onloss#losingalovedone #losingaparent#foodforthought #forgiveness #grief#griefsupport #griefjourney #selfdisclosure#lifecoaching #lifecoach#foreveradaddysgirl #iloveyoudad
****I wrote this 2 years ago...
One of my goals is to be more transparent in telling my story; the parts of my journey that are often not talked about for various reasons. Why? The work I do requires my clients to be vulnerable and open up...Which can be very uncomfortable. In this discomfort comes healing and growth. I want my clients to be able to trust me and my work and see that my journey has had some very awful moments as well. No one is free from trials and tribulations. If nothing else my struggles have given me the strength and tools to help others.
...12 years ago at the sweet age of 21, I was homeless. Living with 3 other people (my parents & sister) in a local, one bedroom, bed bug infested hotel. I was a full time college student, working full time and trying to figure out life. I was resentful, lost, and sometimes felt like throwing in the towel. I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life but knew I wanted more for myself. I was tired of moving around. I was tired of pretending everything was okay when it wasn't. Little did I know, life was about to get REALLY real. 💜💕🦋💜💕🦋💜💕🦋💜💕🦋💜💕💜🦋
Reflecting back (as I often do) I'm so grateful for where I am today. How did I get to where I am today? I did my work. You don't have to be a product of your past or your environment.
#doyourwork #getoutofyourownway#lifelessons #lifechanges #reflections#inspiration #lifecoach #testimony #trials#thisismystory #transparency
I was conditioned at a young age to think these terms applied to the people that didn’t have both their parents around. I want to apologize for that way of thinking and respectfully argue that we ALL have Mommy/Daddy issues. In fact, those of us that did have both of our parents around are overlooked for that very reason. We all have a story. We all have a journey. We all have things we think our parents should have or shouldn’t have done. We are all human. The healing comes in when you confront these feelings and process them. In my own work, I have resolved to know and accept that my parents did what they could with the tools that they had. Just because they are my parents, doesn’t mean they aren’t human and are perfect. I want to encourage you to look at things today through a lens of compassion and inspire some food for thought. How did your parents show up? What was their story? Did they heal their past issues? Was it passed to you? Only person you can control is yourself. You can help make your future better by doing YOUR work. The flip side of this--your inner child will continue to show up screaming for attention. This sometimes appears as a meltdown, depression, anxiety, unhealthy toxic behavior & relationships, etc. I promise you this---There is so much peace and joy on the other side of healing. Break the cycle. Start living your best life, today. #selfreflection #selfdisclosure#selfdiscovery #daddyissues#mommyissues #growingpains #growth#doyourwork #love #evolve #compassion#innerchild #breakthecycle #yolo#depression #anixety #relaxrelaterelease#relationships #familymatters #lifelessons#lifecoaching
"Jennifer, your confidence shows in all you do”
To many viewing the pic below, they will see a cracked and broken candle holder with my name on it and words that can barely be seen. I love candles. My Dad always had ways of making us (his girls—Mom included) feel loved and special…. this was just another one of those sentiments. To me, this picture represents one of the last gifts my Dad gave me before he passed. In addition, it carries an interesting story.
Months after his passing, we moved into a development that unbeknownst to us would need mandatory fire sprinkler repair work. The association required all residents to be uprooted and placed in a temporary apartment for 6 weeks. Before we moved out, we were asked to put away all personal items and cover everything else with sheets or the equivalent to prevent dust and debris from getting on furniture, etc.
6 weeks passed, and we move back into our place. I will admit I do have a slight case of OCD and right away noticed my candle holder was MIA. I looked, looked, and looked and couldn’t find it anywhere. I called up the association to explain that my candle holder was MIA and how it was one of the last things my deceased Father gave to me, etc. The lady I spoke to probably thought I was insane, but I insisted that she ask every single worker that was in my house if they had seen it. She did and one of the workers admitted to dropping the candle holder and throwing it away. I insisted that the worker go find where he threw it out and get me the pieces. He did, and I glued them back together.
-Be your own advocate
-Don’t be so quick to take “no” as a final answer
-Things get shattered all the time but there are options to “fix” it
-Life happens to everyone